a very important word

I had a watershed moment this week. 

For the first time in my working career, I could (and did) say "no" to doing a piece of work.

I could have done the work, I would have earned some good money doing it, but it just wasn't the type of work I want to do. It's not why I'm here. It's not why I started this journey. 

I had tried saying 'no' to work before, back in corporate land. I said "no" then because it meant going back to doing a job that I'd left. A job that had nearly burnt me out. On that occasion the three line whip was applied - "he's just got to effing well do it" the message came down the chain of command. 

Of course it was treatment like that made me look for a different way of living, where I was in control. 

At the end of the project that I "effing well had to do" - I quit. 

Saying "no" this week felt like a big moment. A milestone.  I'm starting to realise how much control I now have to shape the work I do, and the impact I have. 

Sometimes the possibilities ahead can be a little overwhelming. Where to start? I began this journey with an open mind as to where it may take me, but I'm realising that learning when to say "no" is just as important as saying "yes".